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A Self-Lover's Guide To Finding The Perfect Swimsuit For Your Body

bikini body

 

(Spoiler Alert: it’s way easier than rag mags make it seem.)

Step 1.

First, acknowledge this fact: Your bod is hot.

Regardless of shape, size, dimensions, numbers, pounds, scars, marks, or anything else, your body is the home to your soul and therefore it’s f*cking magical and mad hot.

Step 2.

Know that, because your bod is already perfect in all of its glory, anything you put on it — especially when it comes to swimsuits — is also going to look perfect (and mad hot).

I realize everything I’m saying probably directly contradicts your results of the “dressing for your body type” quiz you took in ninth grade, but can I just offer you this: instead of listening to master marketers of fast fashion, and “style experts” who know absolutely nothing about you, is it such a radical notion to suggest that you simply dress for yourself?

What makes you feel good? Wear it.

What outfit are you most comfortable in? Rock it.

What makes you feel confident? Repeat it.

Step 3.

Apply the above learning to your search for the perfect swimsuit.

Who knows? It might already be in your possession.

The infamous bikini.

The infamous bikini.

Like, let me provide you with a case and point. I have this bathing suit that I’m absolutely obsessed with. I bought it when I was in London because I was really lonely one day and convinced myself that buying a bikini from Agent Provocateur would make me feel better (and it did, for like 5 minutes, but that’s not the point of this story).

Anyway, after the sales lady convinced me that I couldn’t live without said bikini, I proudly toted my new purch back to my flat where I unwrapped it with gentle care and tried it on again in front of the mirror. The sales lady had been right, I didn’t want to imagine a life without my new bikini.

However, despite my adoration over my new bathing suit, whenever I was given an opportunity to wear it — poolside, or at the beach — I chickened out. Out loud, I told myself I was saving it for a special occasion, but in my head, I was telling myself that I couldn’t actually pull it off in public; that I was too “volumptuous” for such a scandalous two-piece, that others would be offended by my body in my bathing suit.

Because my body didn’t look anything like the body of the women who modeled my new suit in the magazines or on the billboards, it sat in my drawer for an entire season, lonely as I was on the day I purchased it.

I would visit it from time to time — try it on and admire its lines, the way it hugged and flaunted my womanly curves. I would take mirror selfies in my bikini and imagine fantastical scenarios of myself sunning on some golden sand in a far away land where I could wear my two-piece in peace. I longed to slip it on and pull it off, the way all the girls on Instagram did. But I didn’t.

Instead of embracing my shape, I shamed myself. Told myself I’d only wear it when I lost 10 pounds. Promised myself the opportunity to rock it, as if it were a prize for when I got “in shape.” I told myself I needed to earn the right to wear it. 

And then one day, a year and then some after I found my perfect bikini, I pulled it out of its original pink tissue that I had carefully re-wrapped it in, and I put it on. And I went to the beach. And within 5 minutes of being out in the sun, a woman tapped me on the shoulder.

“Can I just say, that bathing suit is stunning and you look lovely in it,” she said.

“Thank you,” I responded. And then I laid back down, closed my eyes and smiled. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I'm not exactly sure what changed in that year, or where my confidence came from that day. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, maybe it’s because I care a lot less than I used to about what others think, maybe it’s because I have a boyfriend who loves my body the way it is (and no matter how much it weighs), OR maybe I'm just learning to love myself a little harder, but I learned a valuable lesson. I can wear anything I want to wear. (And so can you.)

SO. As far as I’m concerned, any bathing suit that you LOVE as much as I love my "London bikini," any bathing suit that makes you feel good, any bathing suit that you have absolutely any desire to wear at all...IS THE PERFECT SWIMSUIT FOR YOUR HOTTIE BODY. 

Trust me. 

(And even if there's nobody there to tap you on the shoulder and tell you how stunning you look, know that I'm virtually tapping you on the shoulder and telling you — you look stunning.)

 

 

THIS POST ORIGINALLY APPEARED ON LITTLEFOOLBOOK.

21 Self-love Summer Essentials

June 20th, marked the first *official* day of summer and the start to a whole new slew of beach trips, 3-day weekends, short shorts, and island inspired acai bowls. To honor summer solstice, the fiery heat of our favorite season and our love for the months that follow, we’ve rounded up a few of the items we’ll be eating, drinking, doing, reading, wearing, and otherwise enjoying so that you can enjoy them too.

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21 SUMMER OF SELF-LOVE ESSENTIALS

1. Plenty of green juices and green smoothies because #health.

2. SPF! A high quality preferably organic and non-toxic sunscreen that you can wear everyday is a MUST. We like this kind by Badger. Hint: Add a few drops of coconut or argan oil to your sunscreen to help spread it out. This dilutes it a bit but without the oil it goes on kind of patchy.

3. A long-weekend getaway with your girl-gang to destination Korakia or your local bohemian hideaway.

4. A stack of captivating beach reads

5. Frozen desserts. We can’t help but repeat ourselves once again about our (vegan) ice cream obsession. We willbe consuming our bodyweight in this and this, guaranteed. #notsorry

6. A fantastic pair of sunglasses. To keep our peepers safe from harmful UV rays we’ll be sporting thesethese, or a combination like these.

7. Hydration is key (especially in the summer). Let this water bottle serve as a fashionable and functional reminder to up your h2o intake.

8. Confidence; also key. Because nothing (including her seemingly perfect hair, ridiculous “beach bod”, and insanely amazing summer wardrobe), should inhibit you from seeing, owning, and rocking YOUR own perfection.

9. This. It only seems non-essential until it’s mid-July and you’re nearing the end of a Saturday afternoon sweatfest aka yoga class.

10. Classic denim shorts. We live in these from June - August.  

11. An extremely skimpy bikini like this one to show off that steamy summer bod.

12. An eco-chic summer satchel to carry all your farm fresh produce.

13. A big a$$ towel because lying poolside and 9-5 beach days are of utmost importance.

14. An epic summer soundtrack for those aforementioned beach days. May we recommend the classic A) Lemonade and B) more Beyonce.

15. Coconut oil (obviously). A year-round essential for silky smooth skin and virtually everything else.

16. Also on that note, coconut water. Preferably straight from a coconut.

17. For all the amazing summer cookouts you’ll be attending you’re going to need a killer guacamole recipe. This one is ridiculously good.

18. A good waterproof mascara so you come back from the beach looking like a bronzed goddess not a racoon.

19. Chapstick with SPF so you can avoid incidences like this.

20. Rosewater mist for a hydrating mid-day summer refresh.

21. Cute and comfortable sneakers like these because as wonderful as it would be to spend your entire summer laying beachside with a popsicle in one hand and your iPhone in the other, enjoying nature (phone-free), is one of the easiest ways to make your summer unforgettable. Grab your favorite people and get exploring.

What are your must-have summertime essentials? Leave your top three in the comment section below. And if you liked our list, spread the love! Forward this post to two of your friends and share it on social media.


THIS POST ORIGINALLY APPEARED ON URBAN ALCHEMY.