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24 Self-Care Rituals To Infuse Your Summer With Self-Love & Good Vibes

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Self-care — the not always easy practice of taking care of oneself — is absolutely, fundamentally, without a doubt integral to this whole self-love thing.

We’re so conditioned to give love to those around us, give time to our work, passions and callings, give ourselves up to those who need us, that we often forget to take care of ourselves, first.

I might as well be the poster-girl for this sentiment.

I am constantly getting caught up in the go-go-go economy of our society. Like, as a freelance writer and entrepreneur, I’ve convinced myself that I don’t deserve sleep and the only way I’m going to be a success in this world is if I work 27 hours a day. I’m also a binge writer, which means when I’m in flow, please don’t talk to me or try to feed me or pull my weary fingers from my keyboard. I’m busy. On top of all that, the best way I know how to show my love to others — my boyfriend, my family, my friends — is to give to them. So, because I want my tribe to know how much I care about them all the freaking time, I try to give constantly: my services, my money, my ears, my heart, my laughter, my love.

Add it all up, mix it around, give it a week, or month, two if i’m lucky, and I end up burnt out, deflated, exhausted — mentally, emotionally, physically depleted.

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I’m learning, though. Because that version of me is no good for anyone. 

Spoiler Alert: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Self-care enables you to give more (of your best self) to those you love.

Over the last couple of years, I’ve proactively prioritized a handful of self-care rituals into my every day. I discovered yoga (yes, I know how cliche that sounds), and discovered I’m a better human after I’ve practiced. Both my BF and I have agreed that I’m definitely a better girlfriend after I’ve had my morning bulletproof coffee. And everyone who loves me knows that If I’m acting a bit on edge, it’s because I haven’t written anything lately. For me, writing — creating — is self-care in it’s most divine form.

It’s not always easy. I skip a yoga class every now and then, miss my morning coffee, and get too busy with my work work to write anything for myself. But self-love isn’t always easy. It is, however, really f&*king worth the effort.

SO. Avoid the inevitable burnout by taking care of number one, first (that’s you). What do you need to do to feel the way you want to feel, every single day? This can seem like a daunting question at first, but knowing the answer allows you to plan for (self)love.

Not Sure Where To Start. I’ve got some ideas. 24 of them to be exact.

24 Self-Care Rituals To Infuse Your Summer With Love and Good Vibes:

  1. Get more sleep. If, like me, you struggle with sleep try listening to a sleep meditation in bed.

  2. Eat food that makes you feel good.

  3. Indulge yourself. Guilt free.

  4. Exercise — not the painful kind you dread. Find a form of exercise you and your body love. And do it often.

  5. Engage in deep and meaningful conversations with the people you love. This is pure soul food.

  6. Write in a journal. If this is a new practice for you, let Katie Dalebout’s book, LET IT OUT: A Journey Through Journaling be your guide.

  7. If you are even remotely close to a body of water, by all means, go to the beach.

  8. Meditate. Or at least try to.

  9. Spend time in nature.

  10. Soak up alone time. It is precious, valuable, and absolutely vital to your wellbeing.

  11. Stop glorifying busy, and rest. I mean it.

  12. Dance in your undies.

  13. Practice yoga.

  14. Watch the sunrise. It’s medicine.

  15. Watch the sunset. It’s also medicine.

  16. De-clutter your space. Not just your physical space, but your heart space, head space, soul space. Need motivation? Read this.

  17. Light a candle.

  18. Write yourself a love note.

  19. Take a selfie. (‘Gram it and tag us @lovebombbootcamp, so we can double-tap that!)

  20. Splurge on a feel-good outfit. Every girl needs at least one reliable feel-good outfit in her closet at all times.

  21. Stargaze. (And wish upon any shooting stars you might see.)

  22. Buy yourself flowers.

  23. Practice gratitude.

  24. Find something to celebrate. Every. Single. Day.

What are some of your favorite self-care rituals? Comment below and let me know :) xx

 

 

THIS POST ORIGINALLY APPEARED ON LITTLEFOOLBOOK.

The Summer of Self-Love: Hot Tips For The Best Summer Ever

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In theory, this whole “Self-Love” thing sounds like a simple concept. It sounds like giving yourself a hug, treating yourself to a mani/pedi combo at the mall, and maybe even a little somethin’ somethin’ from that boutique you pass by every day on your way home from work. What it usually doesn’t sound like is work. Except that’s where you’d be wrong. 

Self-Love means exactly what you think it means — loving yourself wholly, fully, truly, madly deeply. And then some. Self-Love means believing in yourself when nobody else does. It means recognizing your own unique brand of beauty (and knowing that someone else’s unique brand of beauty is certainly not the absence of your own). Self-Love means honoring your self-worth, learning to say “No,” and challenging the status quo. (Remember: we currently live in a society that profits off our insecurities.) Self-Love is an infinite journey, and it ain’t always an easy one.

Especially in the summer time.

With all the bikini pics on Instagram, the juice cleanses, and the incessant heat that can drive a girl to madness (or ice cream), it can be hard NOT to get caught up in the comparison game, or talked into the latest liquid diet because you feel like you take up too much space in your bikini, or to feel guilty about the double scoop of rocky road you devoured in the hot summer sun. (Spoiler Alert: one should never feel guilty about ice cream.)

SO. Want to never feel guilty about an ice cream cone again? Thought so. Join me for The Summer of Self-Love. Every week, this summer I’ll be spilling my tips, secrets, rituals, practices, and pointers to love yourself hardcore all summa long.

Here’s What You Can Expect:

  • Self-Love 101: Have You Loved You Lately?
  • What NOT to do at the beach
  • 24 Ways To Practice Self-Care This Summer
  • How to ACTUALLY enjoy your July Long Weekend
  • Summer Essentials: How to Prioritize What Matters Most  
  • The Miracle of a Mantra
  • 10 Things to Do Instead of Comparing Yourself to Someone Else
  • A Guide to Follow the Light

 ...And so much more! This #summerofselflove series is packed with love and light and probably more than a few LOL’s.

 

 

This post originally appeared on littlefoolbook.

The Ultimate 3-Minute Beauty Regime for Glowing Skin

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I’ve been really tired lately. Like, struggling to get out of bed tired, guzzling 6 cups of coffee a day tired, falling asleep mid-Mindy Project tired. And every time I catch a good glimpse of myself in the mirror I can see the tired all over my face: The bloodshot eyes, the dark circles, the dehydration lines, and an overall lack of radiance (maybe that’s just another warm welcome from adulthood?).

Some days, I’m pretty sure I could pass for an extra on The Walking Dead. This would all be very depressing, and likely end with me crying gigantic crocodile tears (that would only dehydrate me more) into my coffee, except there’s a twist.

I don’t mean to brag, or anything, but I’ve been receiving an abundance of compliments on my skin lately. Apparently, despite what I see in the mirror (zombie vampire, aka dead), my skin is glowing! It’s radiant! I totally don’t need botox (yet)!

And I know what you might be thinking—I’ve got some great friends, right?

And yes, you’re totally right—they’re GREAT—, but only like, 33% of these generous compliments have come from my friends’ lips. The rest (you do the math) have been from acquaintances, strangers, and estheticians who have, quite literally, nothing to gain from their compliment.

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I can tell you that it’s definitely not the lack of sleep or the stress and anxiety that comes from being your own boss and making sure the lights stay on. It’s most certainly not from staring at a computer screen for 12 hours a day. And I can 100% guarantee you, it’s not from the 8000 bottles of wine I’ve dared to drink anytime the girls get together for a GNO (Girls Night Out) that never actually makes it to the O-part because we’re all too drunk and tired to remove the wine stains from our lips and call a cab. No, it’s not that, at all.  

All that I can attribute to the state of my apparently good skin is 1) genetics (thanks, ma and pa!) and 2) my—oh gawd, I can’t believe I’m going to say it—beauty regime.

So, in case you, too, are feeling like the run-down is showing all over your face, or you own a t-shirt that says “my under-eye bags are designer," I’m going to spill all my glowy skin, I-swear-I-get-enough-sleep, and stress? What stress? beauty secrets.

It starts with Witchcraft.

Thayers Alcohol-Free Rose Petal Witch Hazel with Aloe Vera

I’ve been using Thayers Witch Hazel Toner for years. Apparently, it’s a natural remedy that’s been around since 1847, so if you were wondering how all the ladies in those old b&w photos had such flawless smooth skin, I’d attribute it to Thayers (and not the fact that black and white camera’s from the 1800’s were likely fairly forgiving).

I always buy the Aloe Vera formula with Rose Petal, because it just sounds a whole lot more luxurious than the original unscented version. Plus, rose water is meant to be calming (and it smells really good).

The best part about this all-natural blend—the witchcraft part—is that it’s not just a toner, it’s a cleanser, too. So if you’re like me, and pretty lazy about your beauty regime, this is literally the perfect product. I use it morning and night, religiously.

Add more Rose. (Altogether different than Rosé.)

Badger Balms Damascus Rose Face Oil 1 Fluid Ounces

After my cleansing and toning, I add more rose. This time in the form of a moisturizing oil. Badger’s Damascus Rose Face Oil is everything: USDA Organic, Gluten Free, Cruelty-Free, and smells f&*king fantastic (if you’re into roses, that is). It’s also super moisturizing and designed for delicate skin.

My boyfriend, who loves to give me a hard time for buying stuff like this, has officially worked this facial oil into his daily routine, too. It's that good. We go through a bottle of this stuff at least every two months. 

SPF, always.

Andalou Naturals Beauty Balm All in One Sheer Tint with SPF 30

After I’ve given my rose oil a few minutes to sink in, I add a layer of Andalou Naturals All-in-One Brightening Beauty Balm with SPF 30, because I’d rather have my face be wrinkle-free than tan (and that’s why bronzer exists, duh).

I usually apply a dime-sized dollop to my face and neck. Its soft sheer tint adds a touch of color without making it look like you’re wearing layers of foundation, which is precisely the balance I like to strike. Basically bare-faced.

Most days, I leave it at that. But, if I’m going to be outdoors, or in public, and I want to give off that gorgeously nonchalant “I woke up like this,” look, I’ll enter into phase two of my beauty regime.

Time for the triple-threat.

When it comes to beauty products—or any products I use, for that matter—I try to go green, natural, and organic.

I haven’t always been this way. In case you don’t remember, I used to casually drop hundreds of dollars at Sephora on products promising me things like 12 hours of shimmer, kissable lips, and impossible-to-see pores. Then, one day, I looked at the ingredients list in all the products I was using and realized that instead of making me look younger and healthier, these products were probably long-term aging me.

*cue transition into clean beauty products.*

I’ve been experimenting with clean beauty products for a few years now, and it’s been underwhelming, to say the least. The lipsticks don’t stick as long, the black-ink mascara irritated my eyes, and the powders were too chalky.

And then I found Josie Maran. WAIT, before you say it, I know her products don’t pass every green test. But they’re cleaner than most and help me achieve the exact glowy look I’m always trying for. So I’m willing to overlook some things.

I use the Protect + Perfect Argan Daily Moisturizer with SPF 47 combined—literally—with the Argan Enlightenment Illuminizer.

Josie Maran Argan Daily Moisturizer SPF 47 Protect + Perfect 2 oz Tinted Warm Glow

Josie Maran Argan Enlightenment Illuminizer by Josie Maran

Benefit Cosmetics Watt'S Up! Soft Focus Highlighter for Face .33 oz

Nothing fancy over here. I simply mix a dollop of each in my hand and apply to my face and neck and voila — glowy and enlightened!

The final step in my beauty regime—and the third-party to my triple-threat—is not natural at all. But I love it. I use Benefit’s Watts Up! Cream-to-powder highlighter wand to give a champagne glow around my eyes and on my cheekbones.

Because I think I read somewhere that contouring is out and highlighting is in and Gigi Hadid always looks perfectly highlighted. So, there's that. 

And….That’s it! From zombie to presentable in under three minutes.

(If you really want to get wild, take an extra 30 seconds and top with mascara.)
 

 

 

This post originally appeared on littlefoolbook.

7 Simple Ways To Make Space In Your Life For Self-Love

Marie Kondo, the Japanese organization expert, decluttering consultant, and international phenom made famous by her revolutionary approach to tidying is absolutely slaying the war on clutter. Her mega-bestselling books, including The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing and its follow-up, Spark Joy: An Illustrated Master Class on the Art of Organizing and Tidying Up have sold more than seven million copies worldwide.

Her infamous ‘KonMari’ method as it’s known, which consists of gathering everything you own — including the juicy couture tracksuit you HAD to have when you were 16, the stack of dusty frayed notebooks from college sitting under your bed, you know, just in case you need to brush up on the basics of pharmacology, and the vacuumed sealed bag of irish moss resting comfortably in your kitchen cabinet because two years ago while in a shopping trance at Whole Foods you had the intransigent desire to make seaweed pudding, which, of course, you never did — by category (clothes first, then books, papers, “komono” or miscellaneous, and finally, mementos or sentimental items), and discarding anything that doesn’t “spark joy.”

We’ve already begun applying the KonMari method to our closets with extraordinary results, which got us thinking, what else can we KonMari?

Tidy Up These 7 Spaces To Make Space To Make Space For Self-Love

1. Your Kitchen

Albeit an obvious next choice considering cooking is kind of our thing [link], Kondo already has this one covered in depth. Her goal with the signature Kondo kitchen cleanse is to help you create a space that you actually enjoy cooking in. Kondo encourages to take advantage of vertical storage space and to add pops of color (like flowers or plants) that make you happy. But above all else, she advises to keep it clean! That means nothing on the countertops, in the sink, or on the stove. A huge challenge for most home cooks but according to Kondo: outer order = inner calm. A truth we firmly stand behind.

2. Your Calendar

We’ve been decluttering our days since Vancouver's own goddess of truth, Danielle LaPorte, began waxing poetic on the subj. The point (to clearing your calendar and saying no) is that it frees you up to say yes to what you really want to do (vs. what others want you to do or what you *think* others want you to do). And assuming you’re not filling your schedule back up with busywork activities that need to be written down and accounted for, Kondoing your calendar creates the freeing, healthy, good-for-the-soul kind of whitespace. Something we could all use a little more of.

To Kondo your cal, take a look at your current commitments. Is there anything you need to politely decline, reassign, delegate, designate, pull back from, reshuffle, or *gasp* cancel? Be ruthless (in the kindest way possible).

New commitments? Filter everything through Kondo’s signature question: "Does this spark joy?" Only say yes to things that do. Speaking from experience, the inner liberation that comes from a (mostly) clear calendar is life-changing.

3. Your Cosmetics

It only makes sense to use products you love, especially on the face you’re putting out into the world! Whether it’s a smokey eye and bold lip or a simple moisturizer and SPF, if you enjoy your beauty routine, that joyful energy will radiate out into the world. In true KonMari fashion, use products you love and adore. Get rid of the rest.

4. Your Inbox

Our inner Kondo’s kind of freaked when we took a closer look at our email inboxes (all 9 of them). Despite enrolling in Unenroll.me back in December, there is still a lot of stuff sitting in my inbox I literally never open, never mind read, or even remember subscribing to. As Kondo would say, “thank you for __ [insert your reason of choice here],” now UNSUBSCRIBE.

5. Your Headspace

Clutter can be more than just the physical stuff so it’s important to take inventory of your entire space, including your psyche. We have between 50,000-70,000 thoughts per day, all of which are creating your reality. How many of these thoughts are currently bringing you joy? If you’re human (or anything at all like us), according to Google, it’s probably around 20-ish percent? Time to Kondo that.

Start by observing your thoughts. If they’re not adding joy to your life, say thank you, then let those stories, self-talk, beliefs, ideas, and preconceived notions go. This kind of Kondoing is like a cleanse for your consciousness. (This kind of Kondoing is also called meditation.) 

6. Your Heartspace

Although Kondoing your heartspace (i.e. your relationships) usually requires uncomfortable “inner work”, forces you to get vulnerable, and on many occasions, involves very difficult conversations, the freedom, and clarity you gain from letting go of toxic relationships is incomparable. As Kondo might suggest if the relationship isn’t serving you, it’s probably time to part ways, bid gratitude, and let it go.

7. Your Dinner Plate

Kondoing your dinner plate involves asking yourself prior to eating, does this food spark joy, real joy, or am I eating out of starvation, boredom, guilt, or some other form of mind hunger? Which again like the above, only you can answer. 

What areas of your life would benefit from a little KonMari? Continue the conversation in the comments. This space is yours.

 

 

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The Self-Lover's Ultimate Summer Reading List

According to this website, reading makes you both interesting and attractive. Which is precisely why I devour books so voraciously.

One of the most common questions I get asked (second to, “what happened to your hair?”) by friends, acquaintances and strangers alike, is “what are you reading right now?” or “what should I read next?”

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First, I tell them that my hair burnt off during a botched bleach job (long story), and then I rattle off like 12 books top of mind and they’re all like, “hold up, lemme get a pen.”

SO. To make things easier for everyone, I’ve compiled a list of 30 books, all by totally kicka$$ women authors (because #girlpower). In order to get through them all by summer’s end, you’ll have to read a new book every 3.1 days, which is why I’m giving you a head start and posting this now.

These are the books I’ve been reading while writing littlefoolbook. These are the books I’ve turned to for inspiration, for a laugh, a cry, and even for wisdom. Some of these books have gotten me through some pretty hard times (read: my hair falling out, being uber lonely in a new city, and struggling with my reflection in the mirror). Others have inspired me to be vulnerable in my own writing, and to take chances in my career. All of them have made me proud to be a woman. I feel pretty confident saying, there is a book on this list for every girl and almost every circumstance. 

Books For The Fiction Lovers

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Books For Feminists & Critical Thinkers

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Books For Femme-Preneurs & Girl Bosses:

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Books For a Light-Hearted LOL

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For a Memoir That Will Make You Say, "Woah!"

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For Essays on the Female Experience (That Will Also Make You LOL, Cry, & Feel Things)

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Books For Creative Spirits

 

Books For The Self-Help Lovers and the Health Conscious

 

We're curious. What books are on your summer reading list?

 

 

This post originally appeared on littlefoolbook.

15 Ways To Love Your Body RIGHT NOW

In case you haven’t noticed, we’re in the midst of a self-love awakening. Or, at least I am. I’m not sure if it’s something that happens once you’re over the hump of your mid-20s — like a rite of passage sort of thing — or if it’s much less profound than that. But at some point, we all just get sick of obsessing over our flaws and decide to try a crazy little thing called self-love instead.

Regardless of catalyst, I’m 26 now, and I’ve reached that point. For a decade and then some, my body weight fluctuated, and so did my self-esteem. I spent entire summers at the beach wearing cover-ups instead of my usual bikinis because my usual bikinis didn’t fit. (In retrospect, I should have just invested in a bathing suit that did fit).

I insisted on only being photographed from one angle (hand on hip, one leg bent, body turned slightly to the side) because I was convinced that with certain positioning, I could trick the lens into thinking I was Kate Moss skinny. (I’ve never been Kate Moss skinny.) I dyed my mousy hair platinum blonde and wore dramatic makeup with dark eyes, thinking I could disguise my self-perceived flaws in a Barbie-like façade of pink lips and black eyeliner.

I spent so long hating my body that it never occurred to me what might happen if I started loving it. Spoiler alert: It did amazing things. Not only have I managed to lose a little weight, but I’ve come to appreciate my body for the temple it is, and the incredible things it’s capable of.

Most importantly, I’m learning to accept and love my reflection in the mirror (flaws and all). 

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15 Ways to Love Your Body, RN, From Someone Currently Learning to Love Hers:

1. Listen to your body.

I’m no scientist, but I do know our bodies are incredibly intuitive. Your body knows when you need to eat, sleep, take it easy or have the energy to go harder. Simply listening to it can go a long way in helping you achieve your health goals.

2. Nourish your body.

I recently learned that my body is not a garbage disposal, and continuously feeding it pizza is like putting low-grade fuel into your Bugatti. You wouldn’t put low-grade fuel into your Bugatti, right? Your body is a Bugatti.

3. Positive self-talk.

If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, a family member or your puppy, then don’t say it to yourself.

4. Say “no” to images of beauty from magazines.

If you must read them (even I can admit, the latest Vogue can be somewhat of a guilty pleasure), admire the handbags, but don’t be fooled by the Photoshop, the editing, and the false advertising. Take satisfaction in knowing that you are every bit as beautiful as the woman on the cover simply because you are you, and beauty standards are a figment of our imagination.

5. Use a body scrub.

I would start out with my personal favorite, Frank. He will make you feel like a goddess.

6. Sweat often.

As Elle Woods once said, “Exercise releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy!” Also, it’s good for your body, your health and your spirit.

7. Dance (naked) in front of a mirror.

Admire your many curves and angles and all the compositions of your skin and muscles and bones. Appreciate your body’s movement.

8. Buy clothes that fit.

It’s truly amazing what a well-fitting pair of jeans can do for your self-esteem. Stop trying to squeeze into the smallest size because of a beauty industry that praises a size 2. Beauty is not a size.

9. Relax.

Allow yourself the luxury of rest. You and your body deserve it. Set out time for yourself each week to be lazy, read a book, watch a movie or simply spend an afternoon in bed. Do it all guilt-free.

10. Drink green smoothies.

Once you get past the color and the texture, you might find you actually enjoy them and even come to crave them. A handful of spinach, kale and some fresh mango can do your body wonders.

11. Soak.

One of my favorite ways to reward my body for all of its hard work is to take an Epsom salt bath. Epsom salts have been known to flush toxins from your body, relax muscles, aid in muscle recovery, relieve stress, improve your body’s ability to absorb nutrients and so on. Pour a cup or two of Epsom salts into a tub of hot water and relax while the salts go to work.

12. Flaunt it.

No matter where you are on your journey to loving your body, be proud of the body you have. It’s the only one you have, and it deserves to dance, run, bask in the sun, stand tall, walk, skip, jump and twirl. Enjoy what you have now while working toward whatever health goals you’ve set out for yourself.

13. Sleep.

Sleep deprivation builds up over time and can have major negative effects on your mental, physical and emotional health. Our bodies need sleep to rest and repair from the day’s activity, and it’s important to make sleep a priority. If you can’t get seven to eight hours a night, try taking a few catnaps throughout the day (just don’t let your boss catch you).

14. Treat yourself.

Life’s too short to not eat the cake or to not buy the jeans that make your ass look better than the cake. Every once and a while, reward yourself and your body for its utter brilliance.

15. Love it.

Write down a list of all the things you love about your body. Read it and add to it often. 

I’m not so naïve as to believe that there won’t be days in my future where the number on the scale will disappoint me. I also don’t think that from here on out, I will live in a blissful bubble not influenced by mass media, the latest diet trends or the lure of Botox, lip-fillers and wrinkle eliminators. But, I’m making peace with my own unique brand of beauty, and you should, too.

 

 

This post originally appeared on littlefoolbook.

What Proactive Self-Care Actually Looks Like

Proactive self-care: The ongoing practice of taking care of yourself, your WHOLE self, mind, body and soul, every day. It’s the decision (self-responsibility) that we make to nourish, recharge, and care for ourselves often in lieu of pushing through, striving for, and “doing more”. It’s giving ourselves permission to pause and replenish regularly (not just when we need to), without judgement, critique or criticism. Proactive self-care can be as simple as eating lunch away from your desk, going to bed by 10pm, asking for help with the dishes, or as lavish as a phone-free meditation retreat in New Zealand. For me personally (this is different for everyone), proactive self-care is being radically honest with myself about what is and isn’t working, establishing clear and healthy boundaries, and mindfully adhering to my daily “non-negotiables”. In other words, it’s actually doing the things that help me feel my best like nourishing my body with nutrient dense foods, practicing yoga to keep me sane, and spending time away from work (regardless of my ever expanding “to-do” list), daily.

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What proactive self-care currently* looks like:

*Because this is apt to change. 

For my mind... 

Proactive self-care looks like waking up before the rest of the world to spend time with myself, alone. It’s reading good books, indulging in creative pursuits and not checking email every single day. It’s focusing on one thing at a time, getting outside in nature (regardless of the forecast), and surrounding myself with inspiring people that make me a better human being.

For my body…

Proactive self-care means doing yoga or some other type of physical activity, daily. It means tuning in, actively paying attention and listening to my body for exactly what it needs. It’s sleep, at least 8 hours, it’s real food, lots of greens, currently it’s no sugar (with the exception of figs and dairy-free ice cream), and it’s lathering my skin (and hair) in coconut oil even when I’m feeling “lazy”.

For my soul...

Proactive self-care is saying thank you, often (including the moment I wake up). It’s the beach, it’s meditation, it’s regular chats with this beauty, it’s mandatory tech-free time, and sometimes (depending on the season), it’s a totally mindless t.v. show. It’s also endlessly searching for the miraculous within the mundane, compassion, flexibility and although it’s never perfect, it’s giving myself the freedom and space to not work when I think I “should be”.

This kind of proactive self-care, ie. the act of putting small, simple, daily preventative measures and feel-good activities in place to care for our whole selves, prevent and avoid burnout is very different than reactive self-care, which is, in response to burnout. (Because if you don’t slow down by choice, life will make you slow down by force, ie. illness, injury and other life altering interruptions.)

What does self-care currently look like for you? Is it proactive or reactive? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Share your practices, your rituals, your struggles, and how you feel when you actually tend to you.

 

 

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